Journalist Logan Jenkins describes what he sees as America’s drinking problem. See if you agree.
A Canadian friend, the mother of a graduating high school student, telephoned recently for some parenting advice.
Her son wanted to throw a pre-prom party at his Montreal home. The question: Should alcohol be served, as her son requested?
My answer was quick and short, expressed in a burst of questions, beginning with:
Are you insane?
I explained that, in my country at least, serving booze to underage kids is a crime, punishable by jail time.
What if one of the underage guests caused a car crash?
As the adult server, she would be criminally – and financially – liable for damages.
What if a girl was date-raped as a result of underage drinking the mother condoned?
How could she look the parents of the victimized child in the eye?
Could I be Wrong?
The Canadian friend listened to my diatribe but declined to apply to her country’s socialized health system for a straitjacket. In fact, she concluded that I – and, by extension, the United States – might be in need of alcohol counseling.
As I learned last week, the pre-prom party went off splendidly.
Young graduates arrived with their parents, and they were all served cocktails. Transportation to the prom was by limo or family car.
At a dinner dance, wine was served. Again, youngsters socialized in close proximity to parents. The general mood was of a happy family wedding in which the champagne flowed.
Our friend reported that her 16-year-old son had two drinks the whole evening – and enjoyed himself immensely.
Americans hate smug foreign stories like these. They make drinking seem so natural (and our disapproval so puritanical).
The vast majority of the so-called civilized world allows alcohol consumption at ages much younger than 21. However, Americans tend to focus on the sorrows of underage drinking – and the crucial role of adults in discouraging it.
A towering example of this legal obligation towers over state Route 78. A billboard reminds adults that they run a grave risk if they host any social gathering with underage drinking.
The billboard’s visual grabber is a pair of handcuffs on a pair of wrists.
The message of the ad, funded by county grant money, is simple and strong:
Serve a kid, go to jail.
Through Foreign Eyes
To a foreign tourist this blunt warning would seem, well, foreign.
In practically every other country in the world alcohol can be an integral part of family life. The exceptions are Islamic strongholds. For example, in Spain the legal at-home drinking age is 5 and in Austria, it’s 14.
Those laws here, according to most U.S. health officials, would cause our young people to go to ruin. Even before you could say “Coor’s Beer.”
Highways would be littered with wrecks, emergency rooms filled with under-21 casualties. The moral fabric of the nation’s youth would be soaked in demon rum.
Given oft-broken American laws, which prohibit anyone under 21 from ever drinking alcohol, sensible compromises are difficult.
The Marines softened their stance on on-base drinking. They allow underage Marines to drink on special occasions, such as returning from a tour of duty.
This policy shift triggered a debate. It was over whether Marines who possess the maturity to fight also possess the maturity to drink.
Only a severely conflicted culture could seriously debate this topic. You can kill the enemy, but you can’t drink a beer?
Granted, it’s probably an easy trap to idealize other countries for their liberal attitudes. You can bank on the fact that youthful drinking leads to health and safety problems abroad.
But it’s also a trap to idealize this country’s wholesale rejection of under-21 drinking. It’s a social policy that infantilizes the nation’s young. Thus, they often binge when they finally do get their hands on a keg or a bottle of vodka.
To the young, forbidden fruit is always sweet, especially when it’s fermented.
Growing up in their own Prohibition era, young Americans behave as adults did in the 1920s. They thumb their noses at authority and guzzle the equivalents of bathtub gin.
In practice, I suspect many American parents agree with our Montreal friend – and flout the law.
The Canadian mother doesn’t want to encourage her son to drink compulsively. On the other hand, she doesn’t want to make drinking taboo, either. At family or religious celebrations, alcohol is on the table for all those old enough to join in the conversation. That’s her family’s custom.
Interesting Legal Test
(This would be an interesting legal test. To see if the Jewish Passover, which involves ritual sips of kosher wine, is exempt from “social host” laws. Same thing for Communion wine, which symbolizes the blood of Christ, staining the lips of many underage Christians.)
It’s a symptom of American neurosis, this implied criminalizing of a parent who adopts a more European attitude. But it’s where we are as a nation, as my response to the pre-prom question demonstrates.
Don’t misunderstand. The billboard makes a good point. Any adult who hosts a party where kids go predictably wild deserves a fine, if not a jail sentence.
But does the same go for a family wedding where the champagne is happily flowing?
We must see a profound difference between the two settings. If we can’t, we will continue to be plagued by America’s drinking problem.
By permission of Logan Jenkins from the San Diego Union-Tribune.
Resources: America’s Drinking Problem
- Children, Alcohol and Parenting: What Should Parents Do?
- Thoughts on Underage Drinking
- Underage Drinking Problems: What Works.
- Legal Drinking Ages around the World
- Underage Drinking Problem Prevention.
- Reduce Underage Alcohol Abuse In Creative Ways.
- Marcovitz, H. Should the Drinking Age be Lowered? San Diego: ReferencePoint, 2011.
- Peele, S. Addiction Proof Your Child. Potter, 2009.